The Five Stages of Grief

[Fman99]

Also known as the K�bler-Ross model, which I did not know until today. Here they are, as a point of reference.

The stages are:

1. Denial:
Example - "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening."'Not to me!"

2. Anger:
Example - "Why me? It's not fair!" "NO! NO! How can you accept this!"

3. Bargaining:
Example - "Just let me live to see my children graduate."; "I'll do anything, can't you stretch it out? A few more years."

4. Depression:
Example - "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die . . . What's the point?"

5. Acceptance:
Example - "It's going to be OK."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

I am firmly in stage 1. I can't believe, fully, that this has happened for a second straight year.

[soupcan]

6. Fuck this team.

[metirish]

I'm in that stage where I am trying to convince myself that it doesn't really bother me......

[Guest mario25]

It's like the 3 rings of marriage:

1) Engagement RING
2) Wedding RING
3) SuffeRING

[Guest mario25]

I am in "get rid of half of these bums mode"

[Guest themetfairy]

I'm at the point where I don't want to go to the supermarket because I don't want to deal with the Phillies fans who work there.

[Guest old original jb]

Looper.

[Guest AG/DC]

I'm just looking to get some shit done this winter and glad to have the three hours a night back.

Manuel's bullshit Jerry-rigging was fun to watch but it wasn't going to sail this ship far before the whole apparatus collapsed from the mast.

The difficult part for me is knowing that a window may be closing because (1) the Marlins are for real, making it at leat a three-team challenge next season, and (2) Reyes and Wright haven't been getting any better the last feww seasons.

This may be the most interesting off-season ever.

Edited September 29, 2008 by Guest

[Guest themetfairy]

old original jb wrote: Looper.

jb! Where have you been?

[Benjamin Grimm]

I was at Step 5 by the time the closing ceremony started.

I skipped steps 1, 2, and 3 and made a brief stop at step 4.

[Guest holychicken]

Are you allowed to start the process before it has even officially happened?

If so, I went through 1 and 2 before the season was over:

This can't be happening again! Why me!!?!?! 2 years in a row!!! NOOOO!!

*punches wall*

Bargaining happened in the final game:

At least we are playing for something. There is a glimmer of hope of hope we might make it. We will get them next year when we actually have a BP.

Depression was brief after the game and I was pretty much at stage 5 by the end of the closing ceremonies.

[Guest old original jb]

themetfairy wrote: ="old original jb"]Looper. jb! Where have you been?

1) Teaching my daughter to understand baseball.
2) Brain washing her to root for the mets.
3) Working.
4) Sharply curtailing time spent posting on internet message boards!

RESULTS:

1) At 4 1/2 years of age, she understands the value of a complete game shutout and that if Delgado hits a homerun with Beltran on base the Mets get not one but two runs. Also that your team gets three outs and you can only score a run when batting.
2) Her favorite players are Johan Santana, and Carlos Beltran and she is prepared for a lifetime of dissapointment. (Is this reportable to Child Welfare?)
3) Have gotten more done at both jobs.
4) See 1-3

[Guest themetfairy]

Well, hopefully you'll be able to curtail the message boards a little less. It's good having you around.

[Frayed Knot]

old original jb wrote: Looper.

We could have used him.

[TransMonk]

I skipped right to 5 and slept OK last night. I was devistated in 2006 and angry/sick in 2007, but this year I really am tired of worrying about it.

It would have been nice to get in, but the current team would have been overmatched vs. any opponent.

It will be interesting to see what they do in the offseason, but I'm happy to have my evenings back.

[Benjamin Grimm]

TransMonk wrote: I'm happy to have my evenings back.

Me too.

[Vic Sage]

Since I live in a perpetual state of anger anyway, the Mets fit into my lifestyle perfectly.

In fact, i'm thinking of naming my home. You know, like "Tara", or "Xanadu"? I'm going to name it Stage II.

[Guest OlerudOwned]

I've built a pretty steady cycle the last few years. Rangers go on a run, get knocked out of playoffs in time for baseball season to start. Mets piss it all away in the fall, just in time for hockey season.

Rinse, repeat. Somewhere in there the Giants won a Super Bowl, which was pleasant.

[Guest cooby]

good grief

[MFS62]

My anger jumped directly to rage and bypassed acceptance.

Later

[Benjamin Grimm]

Maybe it's me, but I just don't see what there is to be angry about.

[Guest cooby]

Me neither. THis is all peanuts in the real world.

[Willets Point]

Me three. The Mets had a fun, exciting season and finished second place. I have no Yankee-fan-like sense of entitlement to the playoffs and while I'd like to see the Mets play in them, this season is still far better than the majority of seasons in Mets history.

[Guest themetfairy]

I'm not angry.

Disappointed, for sure. But not angry.

[soupcan]

I'm better today but I don't think I really enjoyed this season.

Too many bad, bad losses.

[Benjamin Grimm]

Yeah, "disappointed" is a better word.

I did enjoy the season. Not as much as 2006, of course, but it was far better than 2007. Their summer surge was fun, and it was nice to see them get back into first place after their season started so poorly.

My all-time favorite season was one in which the Mets fell short at the end: 1985. When that season finished, I wasn't at all ready for it to end.

That's not the case this time. I'm sorry the Mets didn't make the playoffs, but I'm glad the season is over. It will be nice to be away from baseball for the next six months.

[Guest John Cougar Lunchbucket]

I enjoyed this year a lot more than last year, even though I gave up on the team at least 4 or 5 times. I started to make a list, I'll post it soon.

I'll be honest, I'm kind of relieved to be through with it for a lot of reasons -- too many emotional batterings, way too much of a time-suck and even when it was going well there was always the threat of a suckerpunch in the package.

One thing I will miss is having grown accustomed to listening to games while running, niot sure how I will continue without that! I made it nearly 8 miles last time out. That's more than I'd run in one go since cross-country practice in high school I think.

[Guest themetfairy]

I'll say this - at least they gave it a try in the final game. The Glavine game was over as soon as it started. Sitting at Shea through that debacle was totally demoralizing.

[Centerfield]

I enjoyed this year a lot more than last year. If not for the baggage of 2007, this year would have been just a lost pennant race. No one would be mentioning the "C" word. The cock-punch losses were obviously painful, and in that way it reminded me of 2005, when jb coined "Looper". I'm disappointed that the offense came up short in the Marlins series, as well as a few of the Braves games, but I imagine that bullpen put tremendous pressure on them.