I'm in touch with about 100 of my fraternity brothers from Syracuse via an email group. Recently we were discussing the Bernie Fine situation and one of the guys who is an educator added the below email. I thought it would be apropos to post here. First, I'd like to commend Scott for raising this topic. It is and will remain among the most emotionally charged issues of our time and there were many reasons for NOT bringing it up. One in 6 boys are sexually abused by age 18, according to research, so I would assume it affects many of us directly or indirectly. I am <> disappointed with Boeheim's initial comments about the victims being liars. To make those statements in the media has prevented other victims of Bernie Fine to NOT come forward. This compromises the investigation. It is irresponsible. It does seem that third time's a charm, ie JB's comments after the Florida game. He's finally getting the picture of how devastating child sex abuse is to the development of the victim boys and the adult men they become. A good resource for learning more is http://www.malesurvivor.org/ Moving forward, and in the interest of being balanced men, I'm issuing this challenge to you: When a child, boy or girl, is in your presence and the topic of Sandusky/Penn State or Fine/SU comes up on TV or news or discussion, look for an opportunity to tell the child that you understand how difficult it is to keep a secret, that you would want a child to trust you enough to tell you they have been sexually abused if it happened to them, and that you would believe them, and that you would help. In short, you understand, you believe, you will help. It seems simple but to the child it is not. Something that may be more helpful than a wisecrack with your kid is this book by Norman Friedman titled "Inoculating Your Children Against Sexual Abuse. Here is the Google Books link: http://books.google.com/books/about/Inoculating_Your_Children_Against_Sexual.html?id=l3U5fSzBNQwC I've read the Sandusky grand jury report and listened to the Fine victims and one thing is clear and undisputable: Both men groomed their victims, both men abused their power, both men had access and opportunity. This is what children need to understand. Very few children are abused by strangers. It's the uncle, the older cousin, the older friend, the father, the step father, the scout master, the parish priest, the coach, the employer, the neighbor, the teacher. Scott asked how I feel about it: I feel sucker punched. I didn't expect this to come from my own camp. I am needing Boeheim to give me some hope that "the program" wasn't put above the children.