One of the better writers from the Times Bill Rhoden has his say..]Under the Pressure of a Deadline, the Mets Wisely Demonstrate PatienceThe Mets are on a learning curve: Willie Randolph is a first-year manager, and Minaya is in his first season as the team's general manager, though he spent two eye-opening seasons as the general manager of the existential road show known as the Montreal Expos. The lesson he learned in Montreal was that building takes time. "It took me at least a year, a year and a half or more just to understand that you have to let things come to you," he said. "You can't force things to happen."Yesterday was a good day for the Mets on the field - they defeated Houston and avoided a sweep. Yesterday was also a happy day for an important part of the Mets' family in Binghamton, N.Y., where outfielder Lastings Milledge, a top prospect, survived the trading deadline. He was hitting .348 for Class AA Binghamton through Saturday after hitting .302 in 232 at-bats for Class A St. Lucie. Milledge's name was mentioned prominently as part of a trade that would have brought Manny Ramirez to the Mets.Milledge's mother and father and one of his two older brothers made the trip from Palmetto, Fla., to Binghamton, where they sweated out the deadline together. His mother, Linda, said she was relieved that her youngest son was still in the Mets' organization. "We're happy," she said by telephone. "The family's happy." Milledge's father, Tony, a retired Florida state trooper and a former minor leaguer, said he didn't think his son would go to Tampa Bay because the Devil Rays had plenty of outfielders, and he didn't think he would go to Boston because he didn't think the Red Sox could justify getting rid of a player of Ramirez's stature.Then Lastings Milledge took the phone. I had never spoken with him. He was another anonymous prospect being tossed around as trade bait. He exuded an aura of confidence, the same sort of confidence you find in the Mets' other emerging players: Jos� Reyes, David Wright and, to a lesser extent, Carlos Beltran. "I feel the same as I felt before," Milledge said about still being a Met. In his mind, the fact that he had not been traded had less to do with Tampa Bay's glut of outfielders and Ramirez's bat than with the talent he brought to the organization. "I didn't think I'd be traded," he said, "because the Mets know what I can do."He also knew that the Mets made a blunder at this time last year when Jim Duquette, the general manger at the time, bowed to trading-deadline pressure, dealing Scott Kazmir, a talented left-handed pitching prospect, to the Devil Rays. "Last year they made a mistake," Milledge said. "They didn't want to trade another young player."More than the bravado about his ability, Milledge's upfront response to a question about an incident that occurred three years ago was a better indication of his maturity and perspective. He was expelled from Northside Christian School in St. Petersburg, Fla., as a junior after he admitted having had sexual relations with his 15-year-old girlfriend. He completed a juvenile arbitration program, which included community service. Projected as a top-five pick in 2003, he fell to No. 12, where the Mets selected him. But after the draft, the Mets stopped negotiations to investigate allegations that he had had sexual relations with girls as young as 12 and 13. The allegations were never substantiated."You go through certain situations; you live through them and learn from them," Milledge said yesterday. "Actually, in a way I'm sort of glad that happened, because I think I'm better person because of it."The problem facing Minaya is whether Mets fans will stay off his case. Will they give him space to build? Milledge, for all his maturity, is 20 years old and needs at least another full year of seasoning. His oldest brother, Greg, who had a brief career in baseball, predicted that his baby brother would be ready for the majors by 2007. "He needs 500 more at-bats," he said from Palmetto. "I'd say 500 to 700. He's ready now, defensively, but he still has to adjust to hitting with wood. He needs time."He'll have to adapt to New York City," Greg Milledge said, adding that a large part of his own failure in baseball was because of issues involving alcohol. "He needs more time. I think of what happened to Dwight Gooden and Darryl Strawberry. Growing up too fast can lead to a lot of bad things."A day before the trading deadline, critics predicted that Minaya would take heat for not pulling the trigger on a blockbuster trade. He shouldn't take any heat. The organization properly played the role of a good hitter who laid off a tantalizing pitch that ultimately was out of the strike zone.The Mets are Manny-less, and better for it.